Day 17 Love promotes intimacy.
Yeah that's kinda hard with him currently out of state. lol but the principals remained the same.
The relationship in a marriage is the most intimate of all. It is the greatest joy and scariest danger all in one. For someone to know us so personally and deeply they can cause wounds that can either take very long to heal or never heal. Home and marriage should be a place of safety, not fear. This fear and strain can cause you or your spouse to look outside your marriage for comfort...tender subject at best.
According to the bible, there is no fear in love, but love should cast out fear. Like Adam and Eve the closeness and intimacy should promote the relationship.
You alone wield the power to accept or reject your spouse. Intimacy takes time to develop, especially after it had been compromised. You have to give it a chance to open up again. Both hubby and I closed ourselves off to each other. It takes time to build that.
And for the first time in a long while I got a sure sign that David wants to do that. Last night we got into a little argument based on incorrect expectations. Then at the end of the argument he acknowledged that my faith in him is gone, and said that I need to let him restore my faith in him.
Today he tells me about a dream he had about us, He had a happy lovey dovey dream that helped him put a new perspective on things. He said he caught a glimpse of our happy days recently and he is seeing my new attitude is refreshing. He thinks we can do this, and he WANTS to do this. That's the first time in a while that he's actually said that. like used those words. My hope continues to grow.
Its a new outlook its believing in him and in myself and not being that person before I had my faults but I allowed most of them, as did he...we were both selfish and judgemental and we weren't giving each other the chances to succeed, we were in fact setting each other up for failure.
This could be a very good sign.
I've talked a lot about our failures. And the things we've done wrong. Maybe I've even given a bad impression of both of us. We are not bad people, we just let everything get between us. Career, house, kids, money we let it all come first and should not have. Easy to do with everything couples face these days. But we choose to fight that out to survive, partly because we are both stubborn asses, but partly because we both know we are deeply in love. The kind of love I've been talking about throughout the last few weeks.
Why else would two people continue on as long as we both have like this...we aren't looking to be emotionally battered by each other. Comes down to hope and faith. how ever little we see or feel we know it's still there.
Ok now back to work...
Yeah that's kinda hard with him currently out of state. lol but the principals remained the same.
The relationship in a marriage is the most intimate of all. It is the greatest joy and scariest danger all in one. For someone to know us so personally and deeply they can cause wounds that can either take very long to heal or never heal. Home and marriage should be a place of safety, not fear. This fear and strain can cause you or your spouse to look outside your marriage for comfort...tender subject at best.
According to the bible, there is no fear in love, but love should cast out fear. Like Adam and Eve the closeness and intimacy should promote the relationship.
You alone wield the power to accept or reject your spouse. Intimacy takes time to develop, especially after it had been compromised. You have to give it a chance to open up again. Both hubby and I closed ourselves off to each other. It takes time to build that.
And for the first time in a long while I got a sure sign that David wants to do that. Last night we got into a little argument based on incorrect expectations. Then at the end of the argument he acknowledged that my faith in him is gone, and said that I need to let him restore my faith in him.
Today he tells me about a dream he had about us, He had a happy lovey dovey dream that helped him put a new perspective on things. He said he caught a glimpse of our happy days recently and he is seeing my new attitude is refreshing. He thinks we can do this, and he WANTS to do this. That's the first time in a while that he's actually said that. like used those words. My hope continues to grow.
Its a new outlook its believing in him and in myself and not being that person before I had my faults but I allowed most of them, as did he...we were both selfish and judgemental and we weren't giving each other the chances to succeed, we were in fact setting each other up for failure.
This could be a very good sign.
I've talked a lot about our failures. And the things we've done wrong. Maybe I've even given a bad impression of both of us. We are not bad people, we just let everything get between us. Career, house, kids, money we let it all come first and should not have. Easy to do with everything couples face these days. But we choose to fight that out to survive, partly because we are both stubborn asses, but partly because we both know we are deeply in love. The kind of love I've been talking about throughout the last few weeks.
Why else would two people continue on as long as we both have like this...we aren't looking to be emotionally battered by each other. Comes down to hope and faith. how ever little we see or feel we know it's still there.
Ok now back to work...
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