Well hubby's current business trip ends today and he'll be home for good tomorrow. We've had a rough month, but things seem to be moving in the right direction. The principals behind both books are strong and have an incredible validity.
They remind you of how you started out and help you truly understand how you got to this point where things are rough. They provide clear and solid way to get back to the good stuff, you just have to trust and believe not only in yourself but in your spouse.
With that said, I know I threw out a few tidbits of controversy there yesterday, and I believe to each his own. Men are programmed to want to spread their seed everywhere and as often as possible. No that doesn't m make it ok for him to do so in front of you or behind your back.
I also believe that we have narrowed in our minds what the ideal marriage should be. That's what society says is ok, and acceptable. But who are they to say what is ok in YOUR marriage... It's yours not theirs. So only the two of you can define your marriage. You set the standard and you measure to your standard, not theirs. The saying goes if everyone jumped off a cliff would you follow? It holds true for most everything. Don't do any of it because someone else did.
We enjoy extra friends so to speak, from time to time. No I'm not a lesbian and no I don't consider myself even bisexual really. I prefer the term bi selective. So we sometimes have another friend join us or a couple. Either way we are ok with it, we set our rules and we stick to them. That's what makes it work. Our hearts belong to each other, but we are ok with sharing our bodies now and then!
Honestly the only thing we share is the physical act of it. There is no emotion involved. Now every so often we'll find a crazy or two, or someone will get jealous and we deal with that like adults. We don't let it affect our marriage. Some things are off limits other things are ok until we decide otherwise.
It works for us and you'd be surprised how many others it works for as well...really surprised in fact. lol
Anyway, he comes home and as far as I know is going to start his love dare journey. I'm going to start it again as a refresher...can never read a good thing too many times.
What I take away from my ramblings is a better understanding of myself and my husband. Writing this has been very cathartic, because I do go back and read what I post and if really gives me a third person perspective of what is going on. I can see sometimes for what I'm wrong about and what I need to stand my ground with. Prior to opening this I've kept a private journal on my laptop. But I'm hoping that someone will benefit from my experiences, mistakes and victories.
Till tomorrow.
They remind you of how you started out and help you truly understand how you got to this point where things are rough. They provide clear and solid way to get back to the good stuff, you just have to trust and believe not only in yourself but in your spouse.
With that said, I know I threw out a few tidbits of controversy there yesterday, and I believe to each his own. Men are programmed to want to spread their seed everywhere and as often as possible. No that doesn't m make it ok for him to do so in front of you or behind your back.
I also believe that we have narrowed in our minds what the ideal marriage should be. That's what society says is ok, and acceptable. But who are they to say what is ok in YOUR marriage... It's yours not theirs. So only the two of you can define your marriage. You set the standard and you measure to your standard, not theirs. The saying goes if everyone jumped off a cliff would you follow? It holds true for most everything. Don't do any of it because someone else did.
We enjoy extra friends so to speak, from time to time. No I'm not a lesbian and no I don't consider myself even bisexual really. I prefer the term bi selective. So we sometimes have another friend join us or a couple. Either way we are ok with it, we set our rules and we stick to them. That's what makes it work. Our hearts belong to each other, but we are ok with sharing our bodies now and then!
Honestly the only thing we share is the physical act of it. There is no emotion involved. Now every so often we'll find a crazy or two, or someone will get jealous and we deal with that like adults. We don't let it affect our marriage. Some things are off limits other things are ok until we decide otherwise.
It works for us and you'd be surprised how many others it works for as well...really surprised in fact. lol
Anyway, he comes home and as far as I know is going to start his love dare journey. I'm going to start it again as a refresher...can never read a good thing too many times.
What I take away from my ramblings is a better understanding of myself and my husband. Writing this has been very cathartic, because I do go back and read what I post and if really gives me a third person perspective of what is going on. I can see sometimes for what I'm wrong about and what I need to stand my ground with. Prior to opening this I've kept a private journal on my laptop. But I'm hoping that someone will benefit from my experiences, mistakes and victories.
Till tomorrow.
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