Well we talked for a good long while last week and ended up going to see hubby while he was at school. Had a really good weekend, no fighting, no awkwardness, nothing. Had a nice relaxing weekend for both of us, he even said so as well.
So that gives me a whole weekend of stuff to catch up on from the book. So lets see....
Day 10 love is unconditional, 11: Love Cherishes, 12 Love lets the other win, 13: Love fights fair.
That's a lot for the weekend through today, so I'll keep it brief.
Unconditional love is the only way it will last a lifetime. If asked why you love you spouse, most would answer with traits like beauty, sense of humor, or kindness. strength, or personality.
These things can fade after time, which would also mean that love based on those things would fade after time as well.
Love cherishes. Marriage in today's world is treated like they are disposable for many, trade in for a newer or better model. But in fact love needs to be it should be priceless, a part of who you are as a whole. Biblical verses show that we should love our spouse as we do our own body and by loving our spouse we are loving ourselves as well.
When problems come up they need to be nursed back to health as you would for an injury. They need to be cherished. The key here is not to let culture determine the worth of your marriage, treat them well, speak highly of them and nourish and cherish the love of your life.
Love lets the other win. Some one has to give, as a natural part of us, we are stubborn. This can be good and bad, but we stick on the little things and sometimes the big things, as the time goes on, this can be very detrimental to a marriage. Its not about winning and losing, its about being flexible and coming together for the solutions not to be the one who is right. It's not a matter of pride.
Love fights fair....this one is a big one, too many times we, meaning everyone takes advantage of situations to exploit a weakness or take a low blow because it feels like the right time to get them. Life tests you and the forced closeness begins stripping away to the problems and or habits that may have been hiding. Everyone goes through it. but dealing with it the right way will make you stronger and healthier on the other side. The worst damage you can do will be at the height of the fight. That is when pride is the strongest and anger is the hottest. This is when we are the most selfish and judgemental. Love needs to be the cause for change and the tap on the shoulder that reminds you that your spouse and your marriage are to valuable. So set boundaries, stick to them, know when to take a break, These can be you yourself or the both of you as a couple.
So that's a lot to take in but in all the pages, it means choose your words and actions carefully or you will damage the most important things in your life. Your spouse your marriage and yourself.
Wise words too many of us do not take into account...
So that gives me a whole weekend of stuff to catch up on from the book. So lets see....
Day 10 love is unconditional, 11: Love Cherishes, 12 Love lets the other win, 13: Love fights fair.
That's a lot for the weekend through today, so I'll keep it brief.
Unconditional love is the only way it will last a lifetime. If asked why you love you spouse, most would answer with traits like beauty, sense of humor, or kindness. strength, or personality.
These things can fade after time, which would also mean that love based on those things would fade after time as well.
Love cherishes. Marriage in today's world is treated like they are disposable for many, trade in for a newer or better model. But in fact love needs to be it should be priceless, a part of who you are as a whole. Biblical verses show that we should love our spouse as we do our own body and by loving our spouse we are loving ourselves as well.
When problems come up they need to be nursed back to health as you would for an injury. They need to be cherished. The key here is not to let culture determine the worth of your marriage, treat them well, speak highly of them and nourish and cherish the love of your life.
Love lets the other win. Some one has to give, as a natural part of us, we are stubborn. This can be good and bad, but we stick on the little things and sometimes the big things, as the time goes on, this can be very detrimental to a marriage. Its not about winning and losing, its about being flexible and coming together for the solutions not to be the one who is right. It's not a matter of pride.
Love fights fair....this one is a big one, too many times we, meaning everyone takes advantage of situations to exploit a weakness or take a low blow because it feels like the right time to get them. Life tests you and the forced closeness begins stripping away to the problems and or habits that may have been hiding. Everyone goes through it. but dealing with it the right way will make you stronger and healthier on the other side. The worst damage you can do will be at the height of the fight. That is when pride is the strongest and anger is the hottest. This is when we are the most selfish and judgemental. Love needs to be the cause for change and the tap on the shoulder that reminds you that your spouse and your marriage are to valuable. So set boundaries, stick to them, know when to take a break, These can be you yourself or the both of you as a couple.
So that's a lot to take in but in all the pages, it means choose your words and actions carefully or you will damage the most important things in your life. Your spouse your marriage and yourself.
Wise words too many of us do not take into account...
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