Update...he was playful with me today. Now mind you he is currently in training in another state so we mainly communicate via text. But a sign of hope, he played back. I made a comment and in the same good perverse nature of banter he didn't miss a beat!
Breath........surrender......hope.
the statement was made...don't bitch because your husband maintains his self care. Not exactly those words but that's the jist.
There is a big section on self care. Taking care of yourself so that you make take care of your marriage. Sounds a little weird but whenyou break it down it makes sense. Think about the things that you find fun, or the things that you do that make you feel good afterwards. In doing those things at least a few everyday you are taking time to take care of you and your well being. If you do nothing for yourself and you see your spouse wanting to do things to take care of themselves, you can and probably will start to resent them for it. I know I do. How dare he go out to lunch...I don't get to go out to lunch. What he wants to go play golf or go for a ride BY HIMSELF on his motorcycle when I've been stuck in the house all week cooking and cleaning? **GASP** that is ludacris!!!! No its really not, in hindsight I was an idiot for placing my own frustrations out on my husband. I wanted to go out and have a good time but couldn't release the grip on everything long enough to do so. And if I can't I'll be damned if he gets to have fun. WTF... I'm really a bitch for that (FYI I hate being called that by my husband, don't care if anyone else does but when it comes from him its infuriating). But looking at it with those eyes, hell yeah I'm being a bitch and an big one at that. If I saw a woman acting like this I'd give her a few choice words, never thought I'd see myself that way.
Have faith in my husband. I go back to that perfect match I found for me, or the perfect match that found me really. I married a man that had everything I wanted. How dare I take that away by controlling him. faith and trust go hand in hand and by giving up that control I thought I needed I'm restoring my faith and trust in him and he will see that.
Just a few notes here that I made in my kindle that I want to make sure I get out there in case I missed it...
Recieving... hubby gets you a gift...whether you like it or not. He thought about you and wanted to give you something. He's being gracious to you, leave expectations behind and just enjoy it. there will always be a time and place if adjustments need to be made but not in that moment. Enjoy it, say thank you and mean it.
Stop setting him and your marriage up for failure, you don't need to double check everything and verify it. Stop controlling the situation...the more you try to prevent something the odds are that you will end up creating it.
Find the good and quit looking for the bad. plain and simple
Another simple one...mind your own damn business. He'll come around and tell you if it needs to be relax.
Don't crowd him..he knows what you think and knows what your body language is saying, get off his back and let him be the man you married
There is no need to compete with anything outside the home. You miss him, tell him that. Don't tell him he's working or golfing or being gone too much.
Ok thats enough babbling for the night...
and if you watch Glee...some of those songs were awesome!!!
Nite
Breath........surrender......hope.
the statement was made...don't bitch because your husband maintains his self care. Not exactly those words but that's the jist.
There is a big section on self care. Taking care of yourself so that you make take care of your marriage. Sounds a little weird but whenyou break it down it makes sense. Think about the things that you find fun, or the things that you do that make you feel good afterwards. In doing those things at least a few everyday you are taking time to take care of you and your well being. If you do nothing for yourself and you see your spouse wanting to do things to take care of themselves, you can and probably will start to resent them for it. I know I do. How dare he go out to lunch...I don't get to go out to lunch. What he wants to go play golf or go for a ride BY HIMSELF on his motorcycle when I've been stuck in the house all week cooking and cleaning? **GASP** that is ludacris!!!! No its really not, in hindsight I was an idiot for placing my own frustrations out on my husband. I wanted to go out and have a good time but couldn't release the grip on everything long enough to do so. And if I can't I'll be damned if he gets to have fun. WTF... I'm really a bitch for that (FYI I hate being called that by my husband, don't care if anyone else does but when it comes from him its infuriating). But looking at it with those eyes, hell yeah I'm being a bitch and an big one at that. If I saw a woman acting like this I'd give her a few choice words, never thought I'd see myself that way.
Have faith in my husband. I go back to that perfect match I found for me, or the perfect match that found me really. I married a man that had everything I wanted. How dare I take that away by controlling him. faith and trust go hand in hand and by giving up that control I thought I needed I'm restoring my faith and trust in him and he will see that.
Just a few notes here that I made in my kindle that I want to make sure I get out there in case I missed it...
Recieving... hubby gets you a gift...whether you like it or not. He thought about you and wanted to give you something. He's being gracious to you, leave expectations behind and just enjoy it. there will always be a time and place if adjustments need to be made but not in that moment. Enjoy it, say thank you and mean it.
Stop setting him and your marriage up for failure, you don't need to double check everything and verify it. Stop controlling the situation...the more you try to prevent something the odds are that you will end up creating it.
Find the good and quit looking for the bad. plain and simple
Another simple one...mind your own damn business. He'll come around and tell you if it needs to be relax.
Don't crowd him..he knows what you think and knows what your body language is saying, get off his back and let him be the man you married
There is no need to compete with anything outside the home. You miss him, tell him that. Don't tell him he's working or golfing or being gone too much.
Ok thats enough babbling for the night...
and if you watch Glee...some of those songs were awesome!!!
Nite
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